Over the last month I've heard a lot of girls talk about getting their heartbroken, starting a new job, or planning their next life changing adventure. I've witnessed five of my close friends, including myself, go through break-ups over the past month. I have watched a dear friend work until 9pm almost every night at her apprenticeship while taking on an extra design program outside of work. I've seen my best friend follow her dreams of being a surf photographer. I've watched her fearlessly break into the industry and fight every obstacle that comes her way with a smile on her face. I see so much strength in the women around me.
It was day after day the texts came rolling in about who's heart was broken now. These girls who I care for deeply all dealt with the heartache so differently. We all came together from across the country and talked about it over and over again as much as we needed to in order to heal. I would get texts promptly at 8am that said, "I love you, I hope you're okay. Listen to this song and go for a run." I woke up and started my day feeling encouraged by others who were dealing with the same thing. All of us are still broken, and all of us have found immense strength in being broken. We came together, as better versions of ourselves, because we want to constantly empower one another through any tough situation.
I grew close to my friend who moved to New York to start an apprenticeship. She showed me how to get downtown on the subway and took me to Rintintin, one of my favorite restaurants in soho. The two of us dragged my heavy suitcases up and down five flights of stairs while moving out of New York and laughed while doing it. She finished her senior year and moved up to New York five days later to start a new job, and a new (incredible) design program. She has worked her butt off all summer long! Her bosses recently told her they couldn't have survived without her during this season. She was stressed, and tired, and uncertain, yet she fought through it and inspired me to always give the extra hours. This girl is going to lead and inspire others to give back as she advances in her career.
A good friend had a beautiful and healthy little boy today and I know she will be the most caring and delightful mother. My mom stepped down from a coaching position and moved back to teaching students for the first time in eight years because she needed to do something for herself. A fellow intern said yes to her fiancé when he got down on one knee in Central Park. We celebrated by brunching in soho and having a total Sex and the City moment in the streets of New York.
So what? all these women are so strong and deserve to be celebrated everyday.
Women are emotional, fragile, and resilient through every high and low they experience. We feel the need to rush our hearts into being "ok" when in reality it's okay to let ourselves grieve. It's not negative to cry, it's negative to get stuck in our weakest moments. We celebrate our successes with mimosas, hugs, and laughter. Not seeing your family for six months is hard, breaking up after two years is hard, adulting is hard. It's all hard and emotional and it's okay! All of the stress that builds up inside our minds over such topics can be released when internalizing the fact that you're not alone. These women fight every single to for their own personal growth and independence. They are the boss ladies, they are the dreamers, and the doers.
P.S I have a lot of men in my life who are brilliant and wonderful and this isn't an attack on you, but this celebrates us for a moment.